fbpx
Home Issues2023 Digital Dentistry How to Listen Well → Ask This ONE Question

How to Listen Well → Ask This ONE Question

by Karen Cortell Reisman

The 3 "H" Options

As a dentist-owner, do any of these scenarios sound familiar?   

  • You get stuck over how to advise your associate dentist that’s received negative feedback about over diagnosing.
  • You perseverate over how to help your office manager deal with team members.
  • You hesitate to offer support to your hygienist that’s struggling with family issues.

According to a NYT article by Jancee Dunn the best way to handle these scenarios is to ask this question:

“Do you want to be helped, heard or hugged?”

Dunn’s inspiration originates from her sister, a special education schoolteacher at an elementary school. Dunn’s sister observes, ““Some need a box of tissues, or they want to talk about a problem on the bus, and I’ll just listen.”

You might think that this question works best with school-aged children. But Dunn says, “It struck me that this question could be just as effective for adults.”

I agree.

How often do you vent to a trusted colleague, friend or family member and all you want is to be heard, or maybe even hugged? In fact, the last thing you want is advice!

The next time you are in the position to listen to your friend, family member or colleague think about these 3 “H” options: Helped. Heard. Hugged.

➜ By asking them this one question: “Do you want to be helped, heard or hugged?” you will then know how to navigate the conversation.

My best bet: you’ll be a great listener without providing any solutions unless solicited.

Karen Cortell Reisman
Author: Karen Cortell Reisman

Karen Cortell Reisman, communication expert, author, and coffee ice cream eater, speaks to dental associations from Yankee to Pankey, works with dentists on their case presentations & dental lectures, and consults with business leaders on how to amplify executive presence. According to Global Gurus, Karen’s communication training program ranks as the #3 best program in the world for Communication Development 2022 by her global peers. Karen, an author of two books on communication and selling, is CEO of Speak for Yourself®, a communication consulting company. Call Karen to find out more about customized programs & consulting. She'd love to work with you!

Leave a Comment

Related Posts

Join Our Community

Get the tools, resources and connections to grow your practice

We will never sell your address or contact information.

Adblock Detected

Please support us by disabling your AdBlocker extension from your browsers for our website.